Hey everyone!
So, finals week is here! Which means two things:
1.) free time is just around the corner! Less school, more work, more play! Which means (hopefully) keeping this more up-to-date for all my avid fans. ::cough:: ;-)

2.) procrastination at it's finest all week. :) I bet I will update a bunch in the next 5 days. just wait and see!

Anyways... I was facebooking the other day (procastinating, creeping, facebooking>all the same to me) and I stumbled upon a link that a friend of a friend posted. lovemilkandhoney.com . It's newly discovered for me but the first post I read was magnificent, so I had to share it with ALL of you. ::cough:: Yeah... the tons of you reading this ;-)



Marriage: Not an Accessory

Fairy tales paint a beautiful picture of princesses who dream all day of the man who will sweep them off their feet. They wait and pine and sigh until that glorious day when prince charming shows up (without asking for directions), whispers sweet nothings and proposes. They get married. And begin their happily ever after.

I believed that was what love was supposed to be. I searched for it. I dreamed of it. Heck, I even tried to mold a few men into it but bottom line, Fairy Tales are make believe. Love doesn’t come in a package. It doesn’t go out of style and it isn’t something that you “acquire” when the time is right. It is a choice. A daily choice. To love a person for ALL they are, yet push them to be the best version of themselves as possible. AND (here’s the kicker) to allow them to do the same for you.

I don’t love James because he is perfect. Because he isn’t. I love him because I see his heart for God, children and family. I love him because I know that he has a personality that genuinely allows and encourages him to care for others. And I love him because walking through daily life with him is much more pleasurable than going it alone.

Real marriage isn’t a struggle unless you haven’t clearly laid out your expectations, communicated throughout the process and opened your eyes to the beauty of what real love is. Sometimes I feel as though our fantasies of what love and marriage should be overshadows the magnificence that real love actually exudes. Call me crazy but I’ll take crying on the floor heartbroken over simply tossing out a man and moving onto the next one any day. It means I felt something. And feeling is one of the greatest gifts we, as humans, get to experience

Make a point to treat your Marriage as an investment in yourself, in another person and in your every day life. It’s a bond and a partnership and can be something so beautiful. Write your own love story! I promise it will mean so much more than one you borrowed from a fairy tale.

wow. That was all I could say afterwards. I know that I have only been married about a year, but we have had a pretty interesting year so far... Loss of jobs, school, new jobs, new house, severe illness, death, joining a new church, finding a new group of friends etc etc. It has been pretty up/down/turn around/backwords/forwards and anything in between.

But it has been fun. Not all of the parts, but nearly all of them. And the parts that weren't fun, they were bearable because I had someone to go through them with. Someone who would let me cry, make me laugh and cook me a really awesome fried egg sandwich to top it all off.

I know that David and I have many, many, mannnyyy years of struggles and joys ahead of us, but I look forward to every single moment of them. Because not only will I have someone right there with me, holding my hand, but I will probably get a delicious fried egg sandwich out of it too. :-)

Love,

Kayla

"Real marriage isn’t a struggle unless you haven’t clearly laid out your expectations, communicated throughout the process and opened your eyes to the beauty of what real love is."